Scientific and Psychologic Reasons why Girls Love so deeply

When women fall in love, their bodies also produces norepinephrine and phenylethylamine. These increase focus while creating a sense of euphoria. That is why women often become focused on one man to the exclusion of other things when they are falling in love. It is why everyone, men, and women, feels extra alert waiting for a text message, or why people have trouble sleeping or even thinking about anyone else.

Oxytocin is released at various points, including during cuddling and sex. Women produce way more of it than men. Men do not produce it during orgasm, instead of getting a rush of dopamine, which is why they were less likely to fall in love with someone just because we had sex. Oxytocin breaks down emotional barriers, making people feel comfortable and getting them to drop their guard. Oxytocin is what creates that sense of attachment we feel to another person when we are falling in love. When they are not around, you are not producing as much, and so you want more. That is why we can sometimes feel addicted to the person we are dating.

Dopamine, testosterone, oxytocin, norepinephrine, and phenylethylamine all work together to create a feedback loop of love. Sexual pleasure and romantic attachment release the same bundle of chemicals. These chemicals make you give greater attention to their source, while also pushing you to seek out more of the same chemicals. Love and sex, for that matter work on the brain much like a drug.

But even if you knew how to get all her chemicals flowing in the right way, that still would not be enough to make her fall in love with you. Because love is not just chemicals. It is also a function of personal history and preferences.

A big reason why you can not just use knowledge of brain chemistry to get a girl to fall in love is that not every woman responds to the same chemical mix in the same way. Psychologists call these attachment styles, and even if you release the precisely correct mixture of brain chemicals, her attachment style might veto any connection you are making with her. Whereas the hard sciences ,biology and chemistry tell you that you can engage in certain actions, release certain chemicals and get certain effects, the soft sciences , psychology say that something much more personal and nuanced is going on.

You are probably aware of attachment styles, even if you did not know they were called that. For example, have you ever been really hitting it off with a girl gone on a couple of dates, but then she just disappears? Or have you ever had a casual fling that suddenly turns serious? Those are examples of two different attachment styles. The exact same actions a couple of dates where the two of you hit it off lead to two wildly different results one runs and one clings.